low self esteem is a killer

i have a friend who knows a woman that was murdered this past saturday. she was 36 years old and the mother of 5. wondering who killed her??? well, it was none other than her boyfriend, her so-called beloved. see...he was locked up for a year and a half for wrapping her up in duct-tape. and even though he did this extremely disrespectful act, she still found it necessary to visit him in prison and give him money. he eventually got out. all the while, they never stopped being a couple. so the other day, she was under the impression that he was on his way over to deliver a belated mother's day gift. little did she know that the evening was going to end with her being stabbed to death. she was found monday because the smell that was coming from her apartment was so outrageous that the neighbors couldn't take it any longer. the landlord found her on the floor, naked, with a sheet over her face. on the wall, in blood, was written,"i am sick. i need help." a couple of days later, her car was sold to a neighborhood kid for $100. she was the mother of 5 children and not one child belonged to her murdering boyfriend.

i personally didn't know this woman, but this story is not the first of its kind. so i ask you, what's up with the whole topic of people murdering their loved one? was the love that was felt ever that intense? or was it always completely twisted? i mean, u meet someone. you're feeling that person completely. he or she gives you goosebumps, so you want them around all the time. you eventually become intimate and you got a new habit. ok...i follow that. but how does the transition kick off, though? to where you're stabbing them to death. can an argument kick it off? hmmm, that's just not a good enough reason, because its just a difference in opinion and you can work through that; just like a ripple in a pond. and if it gets to be too much and you're really not seeing eye to eye, then there's always this one fact...TOO MANY PEOPLE LIVE ON THE PLANET to get caught up in just one. so can an ego or jealousy problem kick it off? perhaps, b/c there are a lot of cocky people out there. and if that's the case then this holds true...u should just leave that person alone!! because at the risk of sounding extremely redundant...there are TOO MANY PEOPLE LIVING ON THE PLANET to get caught up in just one!!!

low self-esteem is a serious issue that plagues the minds of many. why would one settle for such disrespect? do they not feel worthy? do they honestly think they deserve the beatings, lashes of violence, endless nights of crying and shame, etc? every human deserves love and respect. hugs and kisses. if you are not getting that, then LEAVE whoever you're with alone. life is too short. you don't have to accept anything less than kindness from your lover.

if you know someone struggling with self esteem issues, please reassure them that they can be strong and stand up for their right to be happy. besides...their life IS at risk. the point of no return has to start somewhere. if a man is putting is hands on a woman, because he is SO angry, then what's to stop him from eventually taking her life one day. he obviously can't control himself.

peace, love and respect!